A lot of us are experiencing a sense of grief as though we have lost something huge from our lives which seems to be increasing as the energies continue to transmute and change. New energies have come into this world of ours shifting all the old that no longer sustains us. All we can do is BE and let these feelings come up for release. If you like to write, get all these feelings of yours down onto paper-it s a great therapeutic tool and assists in releasing the emotional energies attached to these feelings. Afterwards you can burn it or shred the paper as a way of letting it go. It is a very simple but also very powerful exercise. Do not be afraid of your emotions; I know that they are overwhelming at times and most of us have not had the training to deal with them. But trust that acknowledging and accepting their presence is a big step in releasing the power they have over you. You are always in control of your feelings and behaviours…it may not feel like it at times but you are. Use whatever resource you have to ride this rollercoaster we are on at this time. ..meditation, relaxation techniques, simple breathing exercises, gardening, walking in nature. Whatever is your preferred method make us of it, you will feel much more in control. Most importantly, listen to your own wisdom no matter what others say to you or what you may hear in the media or through others fears. Look within. Trust your own inner guide…this is the source of All That Is.
Monthly Archives: December 2011
Shifting with Positive Thinking
Being a positive person means taking responsibility for yourself, for your own life. It means taking responsibility for your actions and feelings. They are yours, and you are the only one who can influence them. It’s no use waiting for the outside world to change, because it won’t. Positive thinking is a way of living the life you have always imagined. In the past you may have seen your world as a place of sadness, madness even. Of a place you have no control over. Being positive gives you control. It gives you the belief that you can actively change your world for the better. The old saying “you are what you think” is very true. If you believe the world is an unsafe place full of bad people- then that’s how it will be. If, on the other hand, you see the world as friendly, loving and full of possibilities, you guessed it- that’s how it will be for you. How you view your world is exactly how it will be mirrored back to you! Positive thinking is not about ignoring the pain and heartache we feel when we have lost someone or something but it’s about embracing all of life’s lessons and growing through them! It’s about choosing thoughts that help you grow mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Think about the times you have had limiting beliefs and been proven right! “I never can find anything to fit” “I’m not lucky in love” “Every time I get on this motorway, there’s always a traffic jam” Of course you can’t find the dress or a loved one and perhaps you feel there isn’t enough business, money, time. Of course you always get stuck in traffic. Because you had already set yourself up, EVEN BEFORE YOU LEFT THE HOUSE!!! You are probably not even aware of half the limiting beliefs you have. And I bet you that most of your fears don’t even belong to you. You’ve probably inherited them from others around you. You may well have been dealt a difficult hand. But what matters from this moment on is what you decide to do. Do you give up or do you try to make the most of that hand. Positive thinking is about acknowledging all these fears, seeing them for what they are and choosing a life free of negativity!
Going With the Flow
Each time we try to make something happen we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and depressive thinking and feeling. Thinking we are the ones in control we go about our daily struggles of DOING, DOING and even more DOING. Then one day when things aren’t going the way we want them to we decide that it is all too much and we quit. What is the point, what is this all about we say to ourselves? Our mission is to ‘let go’, let go of doing and controlling. Let go of the belief that we have to make things happen…each time you have this belief you are affirming to your self that there is no ONE that will do it for you…that you will have to DO it for yourself. Let go and KNOW that if you go with the flow and not fight against it, life becomes a peaceful place for you to dwell in. Trust beyond yourself that ALL is as it should be and that you are always supported. Let go, allow yourself to feel and see this omniscient presence.
The Time For Me is Now!
Growing up as a child and an adult I was always told that one had to always think of others and that my own needs came secondary…in fact way further down than that, depending who or what was making the loudest noise. That to look out for and take care of others was my duty and if I should even dare to think of my own needs well then I was just selfish and greedy. Not just in the family was I told to care about others needs, but at school and the world around me. Today we are manipulated by the media to give to this and that, by our religious leaders and politicians who are always telling us to give. Even in these times of financial meltdown we are expected to give and yet we see them take. Always taking and taking and taking…
And this is how it continued for many years, putting everyone’s needs before my own. Forgetting about or too scared to ask for something I would like to have or experience. And so I gave, and I gave, and I gave. Always giving support and comfort to others, donating and volunteering for Charity, to the commitment of self-discovery (because of course I was flawed) and never asking for anything in return. I must admit I became exhausted and held the mentality “what about me, when will it be my turn?”. My turn never appeared…no major manifests that I had so been working on, no real shift in my outer world (many in the inner) nothing that I could look at and see how far I had come in this world of ours. And I grew even more tired and disillusioned. After all, shouldn’t I receive a reward for all the hard work I have done. Shouldn’t I have something to show for all the struggles I have endured? I have fought every demon that has lived inside of me, every fear I overcame…not because someone helped me or gave me a magic wand to make it disappear. But because I was brave enough to acknowledge my weakness’ and fears, face them head on and push through them, even when it took me further away from the connections of family and friends. I have worked hard at life, I have become a champion but without the medals to prove it!
I am at the point now where I know that I have a choice to give, one based on knowledge as opposed to manipulation by others. Yes, it is correct to think of those who are struggling and in serious need of our love and help. But it is also correct to say “no” sometimes, especially when those around you are expecting you to give yet they continue to take. Emotional guilt has a huge impact on how we act and react and this is why it is very important to be discerning. Listening from your inner well of knowing and not from your gut wrenching discomfort that comes from manipulation.
I have worked hard at life, I continue to work hard at life…for myself and the world around me and I feel comfortable receiving the rewards from doing so. Guilt will no longer reside here. It is good and healthy to think of what I need, if not I give without love. I give from a place of resentment and anger. I give from jealousy and small mindedness. And I give because of a sense of misguided duty or loyalty.
No more…I give because I happily receive.
Balance in all things brings harmony, I bring into balance that which has bought disharmony. The time for ME is now, I have shown up to collect my medals!
